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Monday, April 11, 2011

We are so accustomed to disguise ourselves to others that in the end we become disguised to ourselves. Francois de La Rochefoucauld

We are all actors on this universal stage called ‘life’. Some of us good, some really bad, some smart, few of us brilliant, few ignorant and few confused, not knowing they are. Sometimes it’s accidental and most of the times it’s deeply unconscious that we are unaware of this mask we wear, ad infinitum.
Why is it that we have this facade on? Are we ashamed of ‘who’ we are? Is it the fear of being rejected by your peers, society? Or is it just a deep rooted conditioning of the society over the years?
The reasons could be a million, but one cannot conceal the fact that after a while this pretense becomes our alter ego. It’s understood that all world’s a stage and we are here to play our part. But are we even aware of what part we are ‘playing’? Yes to a certain extent we are, the loving husband/wife, the perfect girlfriend, the loyal worker, the dutiful child, the respectable citizen and many more. All these are extensions of our personality and we start identifying with them. We never question, what is our intrinsic nature? The one we have lost trying to modify ourselves to fit the bill.
The society for years now has managed to influence us, making it absolutely crucial for survival. As a social animal, man finds it obligatory to be a part of the herd. And then the crusade of changing ourselves to ‘fit in’ begins. What better than wear a mask, so here we are lions in the masks of sheep, monkeys in the masks of tiger, and so on? This view point is not to demean anyone, but an urge to find ourselves, to find who we truly are. I would not agree less that it is not easy being yourself when you are part of the flock, since the stakes are high, your relationships, your job, your family, etc. And the only logical solution would be to light your candle of awareness. When you are alert, a part of you knows that this is an act, and not you. It could be a small chore; you are upset but have to put on a smile, you are angry but need to be composed, so act but let there be attention.
Every animal and bird follow their essential nature, the lion is a hunter, the cunning fox, the dog is brazenly loyal, etc. The strange thing with animals is that they cannot change their instincts and behavior since they aren’t powered with the most important tool ‘mind’ and ‘consciousness’ that is where we as humans have an added blessing. But has this gift from nature eventually become a curse, to manipulate and distort minds.  And have we invariably become slaves of our own mind and of the society??? The answer lies within you.

Saturday, April 9, 2011

When some things are just meant to be!!!

Some thing’s are just meant to be..  Heard this a million times, makes me want to believe it when things are going right..
They say life is a journey; you meet people, love them, befriend them, learn from them, teach them, and then at some point in life let them go… I know letting go has never been easy for anyone, and it’s this attachment that is the cause of our sadness. But not when I have to let go of something.. Always felt goodbyes are never meant to be… Ok now lets talk about the happy things, when suddenly everything falls into place, all the numbers are right, all the jumbled pieces of your life seem to now fit in, and the whole world seems to be rejoicing… it’s the most mesmerizing feeling I have ever felt.
It happens in the few magical moments in our lives when we meet someone, maybe not someone special. But who walks into your life just when you need them and voila your troubles just evaporate, music begins, and all dreams seem to come true. I know it’s too good to be true but everyone has a phase in their life where you want to believe in angels and miracles. As they say everything in life happens for a reason and that is when all the coincidences and serendipity’s in life make sense.
I for sure will cherish all those moments in my life, which yet bring a smile to my face when I’m at my lowest ebb in life. So I am always on the lookout for the rainbow ov’r the horizon which might not come to pass day after day but when it does, it sure gives u a reason to smile for a long long time to come. And if you’ve been wondering who I’ve been thinking about, while writing this, it’s a secret! And like the lyrics of the famous song J
Like a river flows surely to the sea,
Darling so it goes
Some things are meant to be….